We wear the mask that grins and lies,
It hides our cheeks and shades our eyes, —
This debt we pay to human guile;
With torn and bleeding hearts we smile,
And mouth with myriad subtleties.
Why should the world be over-wise?
In counting all our tears and sighs?
Nay, let them only see us, while
We wear the mask.
We smile, but, O great Christ, our cries
To thee from tortured souls arise.
We sing, but oh the clay is vile
Beneath our feet, and long the mile;
But let the world dream otherwise,
We wear the mask!
By Paul Lawrence Dunbar
This session we begin with the subject of Disruptively Heroic and Humorous Characters and their SuperHero Qualities. We now understand as we Embrace the Secret Gift of our Faults, we find the Naming of our hurts, habits and hang ups, our pain, bruises and even scars, an empowering exercise in taking control of our Story and our Open Narrative StoryWar World Struggle.
“…Take control of your Story; take control of your life. Find laughter in your Story; find the power to transform your life…” (Unknown)
We have been flying high in the friendly skies the last few blogs, It’s time to land this Embracing the Secret Gift of our Faults and Naming our Cast of Characters Plane on a concrete example--'Fr. Esteban.’ ‘Fr. Esteban’ is the name of one of my Cast of Characters. ‘Fr. Esteban’ is the name I have given to one of the Personas of my personality and identity. In my background, there is some history of criminal activity. This is behavior I largely ascribe to ‘Fr. Esteban.’ Yes, I have dealt drugs. Yes, I have been convicted of shoplifting. Yes, I have committed grand theft auto.
There is no denying, I Fr. Kirk, being of sound mind, choose to take off the mask and acknowledge I have done these things, exhibited these behaviors and, even at times, other Gangster Proclivities (We ain't going into all those details at this time (Smile)).
But, I choose to stop wearing the mask. I choose not to let where I've been in the past nor what I’ve done in the past define who I am now nor what I am becoming nor where I am going. I choose to use the past to define where I am from and how far I’ve come. This is the first step in Embracing the Secret Gift of One’s Faults. The second step is Naming Cast of Characters Exercise. I give the name ‘Fr. Esteban’ to this behavior, these tendencies and/or proclivities.
“…who believe in our unparalleled power and privilege to move the world with the heroic stories we live and tell…”
If PHusion is about anything, it’s about not being defined by one’s past. Nor is PHusion about acceptance of the past as indicative of character defects or the need to get in some behavior modification program or go thru any such process. For what?
PHusion is about Open Narrative StoryWar World Struggles. This entails naming and claiming the Secret Gift of One’s Faults.
I don’t deny the past. I give my hurts, habits, hang ups, pains and scars a name. The name of the game (no pun intended) is to flip one’s liabilities into assets. This requires Naming and Claiming instead of shaming. I name and claim, ‘Fr. Esteban’ and give him an assignment on the PHusion Magical Transformational Journey Home. I love ‘Fr. Esteban’ and I know he loves me. I love the Image of God in him and I love the depth of his humanity. I seek to find and share with the world the Disruptively Heroic and SuperHero Qualities ‘Fr. Esteban’ will play in my StoryWar Narrative World Struggle to transform myself to help transform the World. ‘Fr. Esteban’ is as much me as the air I breathe and his Narrative World Struggle to find and develop his Disruptively Heroic and SuperHero Qualities is definitional and constitutive to my Marketable Franchise Property (MFP)!!
Next time we’ll look at Marginalized Tales from the Crypt. Let the Struggle Continue!! Stay Tuned (Smile)